Thursday, January 30, 2014

Opening the feminine heart

As one of my hobbies, I really like to dabble in photography and although I like to take pictures of everything, my favourite shots are the ones that I take of people. I'm not taking about portrait pictures here where people are posing or they are trying to make themselves look in a specific way, I like to capture them when they are behaving naturally and not focused on the camera.

 If I time it right, in these moments I can capture their true selves and I can immortalise the emotions they were feeling in those moments.

Spending so much time looking at people, recently I started to notice a massive difference in the way women and men carry their bodies. If you look at men you can notice that they always walk around quite rigidly, like robots, going here and there with a strong sense of purpose. What I really enjoy though is the way women carry themselves. They walk around so lightly as if they were these small feathers being carried by the wind. There is so much motion in the way all women carry themselves, as if every single part of your bodies were pure feminine energy that just wanted to move freely and openly. In comparison to our masculine energy that is very focused and rigid. Next time you're out, just pay attention to this for a little while, it's amazing to see how men walk around like some kind of warriors and women just tend to "float" with a very gentle grace.

What is even more enjoyable is to notice that the more open a woman's heart is the more energy she radiates through her body and the more freely she moves around. No wonder when you are in love or very happy people tell you that you are floating around. Your heart is just so open in these moments, it just radiates pure energy, making your body fully relaxed. And not surprisingly when women move around with such a radiating and opened heart and body they are seen as being the most attractive, the most mesmerising. 

There is nothing more beautiful in this world than noticing a women who radiates love from every part of her heart, body and soul. Just look at a woman after giving birth and holding their newborn in their hands for the first time. They've just went through the most horrible pain that they ever experienced, but because of the endless love that flows through her in those moments, she always looks absolutely beautiful. Think about it, a woman with no make up, who hasn't slept well in days and her body has just been destroyed, holds more beauty then any runway model, simply because every part of her body is shining with pure love and a fully open heart.

Being able to live with an open and lovingly radiating heart is the essence of the feminine beauty, like a flower you as a woman, you're the most beautiful when you are open and you're showing of your inner beauty. 
The greatest thing is that the feminine energy that lies within you and within ALL women is limitless, it's vast like an ocean, powerful and eternal like the sun. I've probably met a couple of thousands of women in my life, some of them more radiant than the other, but regardless of how closed up any of them were, whenever I looked deep into their heart through their eyes, I could always sense that enormous energy lying hidden within them which wanted to shine and yearned to break down the walls that were keeping her captive.

Living with such openness, is not easy though and takes a lot of courage and strength. Take this paragraph from David Deida:

"Your true feminine heart of vulnerable love-radiance—crushed or negated in child hood—has become surrounded by a masculine shell of fear: “Because my love-light is inadequate, I’ll direct my life toward success so I am worthy of love.” In your teenage years, a feminine shell of fear is then added: “Unless I make my surface shine, boys won’t notice me.” 

Already, as a teenager, the love-radiance of your true feminine essence is hidden behind a masculine shell of protective and assertive directionality and a feminine shell of superficial “see me,” lack of self-worth, and covert manipulation of men’s attention."

During your life, especially as a girl, you probably went through many different experiences where you were living with a fully opened and radiating heart, when an outside event hit you like a meteorite and crushed your loving purity. May it be a boyfriend that you loved, but who betrayed you, a teacher or parent that was overly critical or judgemental, not having a "perfect" body like other girls, a professional environment where you were forced into behaving very cold and logically, repressing your heart. All these moments can be excruciatingly painful to the feminine heart and in lack of guidance and knowledge, the only solution you see is to close yourself up and protect your heart, which lessens your existence. More then that, if the pain is large enough you build thick walls around your heart, to make sure to avoid future pain, but by doing this you lessen your feminine radiance and exquisiteness. 

Opening yourself again and breaking down the walls can be so hard... so terrifying... that most women avoid it all together. Instead they create this "rational" and "logical explanation" of why it is actually a good thing to repress their inner beauty and live their lives with their hearts half locked away. They end up living in a lie, in a shallow existence. 

However the feminine heart cannot accept this, it always shouts and screams from behind these walls wanting to SHINE, wanting to RADIATE LOVE, wanting to be SEEN BY THE WHOLE WORLD AS THIS BEAUTIFUL CARING ENERGY.....but....the fears...... they don't allow it.... . What happens instead, to quiet these voices, the fears try to cover this lie they created with "material beauty", excessive make up, branded clothes and shoes, career, being sexually shallow (these are not necessarily bad things on their own and can bring a great amount of value into the feminine life, but only when they are not used to cover up a lie). The result being even more lies, even shallower existence and even more repressed feminine essence.

But, as a woman YOU have a CHOICE. You can either carry on living in a shallow lie, which you may very well chose because it's easier, or you will let your heart open up fully and experience this life in all it's beauty, letting your soul be filled with love, blissful happiness, radiance and beauty. You can chose to open up fully and radiate your endless love on everyone and everything that surrounds you, inspiring and captivating people by your simple presence. 

You can chose to walk through life with such a seductive radiating presence, that you simply stop men in their tracks, you distract them from their monotonous lives and make them  want to admire you for those few moments that they are lucky enough to spend in your overwhelming radiating presence. 

You can live your life with such radiating energy, that shallow superficial men simply run away scared and attract only those ones that have the courage to live life like real men. Only men who have the potential to be your knight in a shining armour would have the courage to approach you and they would dedicate their life to worship you as their goddess of love for the rest of their lives. 

This power is within you, it's within all women. And as a man, I can tell you, that there is nothing more inspiring or fascinating than seeing a women in her full feminine radiance. 

Saturday, January 25, 2014

The essence of feminine energy

Whatever our view is about intimate relationships and how much of our time we spend thinking about it, they are a defining part of our human existence. Many of us hold our intimacy as being one of the top 3 priorities in our life and some of our most amazing and deep experiences are linked to our relationships.

However as amazing as these experiences can be, we have little knowledge and control of how and why they appear, why we feel so strongly when we interact with a specific person and why after a while the intensity of our relationships can die down. We don't understand why a person who before made us feel absolutely amazing and as a real woman/man after a while doesn't move us any more, doesn't fulfil us any more. We get the feeling that "the magic has died out" and this can happen 2 weeks, 2 years or even 20 years into the relationship.

Things are even harder if you're a woman many times. You are always looking for a REAL MAN, that can open you in a blissful happiness and knows how to deeply penetrate your heart, soul and body with pure love. Instead of finding these men, what all women are really unhappy about is that the men that you attract turn out to be self-centred and insecure little boys, not the strong loving warriors you dream about. 

So how can you influence this as a woman?

It all starts with the feminine and masculine essence and the polarity between these two. The feminine essence is defined by it's ability to love and be seen as pure love, it's deepest desire is to fill the world and the people around them with infinite radiating love, while becoming one with the eternally moving waves of emotions and feelings. The masculine on the other hand is much more focused and rigid. It concentrates on goals, objectives and it has the ability to maintain clarity and remain present in the face of deep emotional turmoil. This is why men consider women as being to emotional and why women feel that men ten to be distant and not in contact with their emotions. 

What many of us don't understand though is that this is how we are meant to be. Men and women do not need to be the same, we are opposites of each other in many ways and we all have our role to play in the female-male polarity. Women have the ability to bring unseen emotional happiness and beauty into the emptiness of the male essence. While men have the ability to bring purpose and direction into the infinite vastness of the feminine emotional chaos. And this contrast is what creates chemistry and attraction between two people.

The greatest thing however is that all women naturally have the ability to love and to be radiant. There is no such thing as an ugly women and all women have infinite beauty lying deep within them. However whether you can express and radiate this inner beauty is where the challenge of being a woman starts.

All women are born with the natural ability to shine, however due to the way how are culture is built they end up restraining this ability. Social pressure tells women, that if they are to feminine, sexual or flirtatious they are sluts. Media and advertising makes you believe that as a woman your outer beauty is what really matters, which makes your inner beauty and ability to love be ignored. In your professional career, if you let your feminine energy and emotion come to the surface, you are labelled as to emotional, hysterical or bipolar. In the dating world, men put pressure on you to just have empty, emotionless sex and to ignore your feelings.

With all these influences it's no surprise that you build up walls around your heart, you make yourself as rigid as a man and limit your ability to express love and radiance with every movement of your body and every breath you breath. Deep inside, you feel that this is not right though, that this is not how you're supposed to live your life and you hope for something external to change this state. Which usually does happen when you meet a man that you fall in love with. Love has a tendency to break these walls around your heart down, but only for a short while. Once the initial intensity of love fades and you start becoming comfortable next to each other, the walls start coming back up and eventually you end up back in that unfulfilled state, where your heart is not allowed to radiate love.

There are many ways though by which women can help themselves open up and be able to offer their infinite love to everyone that surrounds them. Teaching you how to live your life with this kind of openness and radiance is the purpose of this blog and what I will explore together with you in my future posts.